When winter rolls around, daylight fades a lil earlier, people get cold, and baby making season peaks. There is nothing really wrong with this. it has been going on since before you or I were born. Of concern, however, is an ill advised side affect: marriage proposals.
Let me clarify my stance on marriage; I believe marriage is a good thing, a thing that we should all experience once if we can. What makes it easier is that there are plenty of people out there of whom we are compatible with, but too many of us pick the wrong person because winter makes us believe that the person that is warming us up when it was cold outside is Mr./Ms. Right. In other words, winter can be the devil in disguise.
When broken down, compatibility really means willingness to compromise. When you find someone that you are attracted to, you are intrigued to find out more. As you learn new things you begin to decide what you're cool with, what you're not, and what you're willing to forget about until you get in a fight. If you happen to be one of the lucky ones with a good personality and good looks, there is no need to worry about compatibility, the other person will do all the compromising.
The issue is that people compromise too much during the winter when sometimes a stuffed animal is all you need. I don't have hard figures, but I'm guessing that 1/3 of the marriage proposals that will be made from now till April will be broken by June because that's when the mental party starts. Of those that do end up getting married, half of them won't make it past 10 years.
Now I'm not saying that settling is bad, we all settle at some point because there is no perfect person out there. What I am saying is, don't let the cold air eff up your judgment. Wait a lil bit, things will warm up.
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